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Eleven Overlapping, Complex Aspects of Sexuality - handout with a glossary of terms and a teaching grid of aspects, with a definition and 'how it manifests' for each -- by Safe Schools Coalition co-chair Beth Reis. http://www.safeschoolscoalition.org/ElevenAspectsofSexuality.pdf  (pdf format)


The "sex ed" at my high school is awful; where can I get answers I can trust?!

PERSONAL ANSWERS TO YOUR SEXUALITY Q's (in general)

Sex, Etc. - a great web site by teens for teens (of all sexual orientations and identities) about sexuality and health, from Answer at Rutgers University. Offers an "Ask the Experts" service, addressing ALL kinds of sexuality questions from masturbation to pap tests to penis size. Get confidential responses to your questions, usually emailed to you within a week. You have to register (free - online form) to be able to ask questions. http://www.sexetc.org/topic/lgbtq

Sexuality and U - sexual and gender orientation - by The Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada (SOGC). http://www.sexualityandu.ca/teens/orientation.aspx

Talk About Sex - provides young people with basic information about a range of sexuality topics as well as referrals to reputable websites for more information. More than a brochure, but less than a book, SIECUS’ new “minibook” includes “chapters” entitled: What is Sexuality; Sexual Rights; Basic Biology; Staying Healthy; Gender Identity; Sexual Orientation; Relationships; Communication Skills; Choosing What to Do; Sexual Behavior; Sexual Response; Sexual Abuse; Birth Control; STDs/HIV; and Find Out More. Hard copies available $3/each by calling 212-819-9770 or order online. http://www.siecus.org/_data/global/images/TalkAboutSex.pdf (pdf format)

Teen Wire: by Planned Parenthood Federation of America. http://www.teenwire.com/topics/lesbian-gay-bisexual-transgender.php

Youth Resource - a project of Advocates for Youth. ... Click anywhere on the site! http://www.youthresource.com

PERSONAL ANSWERS TO YOUR GENDER & SEXUAL ORIENTATION Q's top of page

Fenway’s Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Helpline and Peer Listening Line - anonymous and confidential phone lines that offer gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender adults and youths a “safe place” to call for information, referrals, and support. In addition to issues like coming out, HIV/AIDS, safer sex and relationships, our trained volunteers also address topics such as locating GLBT groups and services in their local area. Web site: ; To receive free Helpline poster email the program coordinator Joanna Winslow. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Helpline: Monday-Friday 3pm.-8pm (Pacific Time / or 6pm-11pm Eastern Time), Saturday 2pm-7pm (Pacific Time / or 5pm-10pm Eastern Time)  Phone: 888-340-4528 or Peer Listening Line: a youth support and information line staffed by trained GLBT volunteers age 25 and under, (same weekday hours but no Saturday hours) Phone: 800-399-PEER (7337). Website: http://www.fenwayhealth.org/site/PageServer?pagename=FCHC_srv_services_tollfree

Gender and Sexuality 101 (pdf file) - by Caryn B. Oppenheim with support from Safe Schools Coalition. This is a sixteen page report with chapters on "Fluidity, Categorization, and Vocabulary" - “Coming Out” - "Language and Homophobia" - "Intersections of Identity" - "Testimonies" and "International Perspectives."
"Schools should be a community where students, peers, friends, teachers, and families work together to support the well being and growth of children in a holistic manner. The writing and compilation of this booklet serves several purposes. First, through exposing high school students to ideas that they may not encounter until college, I wish to mitigate homophobia. ... It is my hope that the ideas conveyed in this packet will expand the way people think about gender and sexuality, diminishing the gap between “us” and “them”. Secondly, I encourage a dialogue between students, teachers, and parents about the issues covered in this booklet."

GLBT National Youth Talkline toll-free phone (run by GLNH  (Gay & Lesbian National Hotline):  telephone and email -counseling  for young adults up to age 25 by peer volunteers - about coming-out issues, relationship concerns, parent issues, school problems, HIV/AIDS anxiety and safer-sex information, and lots more. Mailing address: GLBT National Help Center 2261 Market Street, PMB #296 San Francisco, CA 94114; Administrative phone: 415-355-0003; Fax: 415-552-5498;  Phone toll-free 1-800-246-PRIDE (1-800-246-7743); Pacific Time: Monday thru Friday from 5pm to 9pm (Eastern time: Monday thru Friday from 4pm to midnight); Email: youth@GLBTNationalHelpCenter.org; Website: http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org/talkline/index.html

GLBT Near Me - a program of the GLBT National Help Center (above). Access 15,000+ local and national resources in the GLBT National Help Center's database. http://www.glbtnearme.org/

Gay & Lesbian National HOTLINE & EMAIL - GLNH is a non-profit organization offering this peer-counseling and information hotline, staffed Pacific Standard Time: Monday-Friday, 7:00 p.m.-9:00 p.m., Saturday, 9:00 a.m.-2:00 p.m. [10-midnight M-F and noon-5 S, Eastern] ... or email your questions and receive a confidential personal reply. Email: glnh@glnh.orgPhone: 1-888-843-4564. Website: http://www.glnh.org

PERSONAL ANSWERS TO YOUR STD Q'S top of page

HIV/AIDS and Young Men Who Have Sex With Men - a May 2009 factsheet from Department of Health and Human Services Division of Adolescent and School Health. http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/sexualbehaviors/pdf/hiv_factsheet_ymsm.pdf (pdf file)

I Wanna Know - A service of the American Social Health Association, this site answers questions about sexually transmitted diseases (STD's), including HIV/AIDS. Ask your questions in an online chat room and experts will answer. http://www.iwannaknow.org

National Herpes HOTLINE - A service of the American Social Health Association. Call 6 a.m. - 4 p.m., Pacific Standard Time, Monday-Friday [9 a.m. - 7 p.m., Eastern] 1-919-361-8488

National HPV & Cervical Cancer Prevention Resource Center HOTLINES - A service of the American Social Health Association. Call 11 a.m. - 4 p.m., Pacific Standard Time, Monday-Friday [2 p.m. - 7 p.m., Eastern] 1-919-361-4848  

National STD and AIDS HOTLINES - Services of the Centers for Disease Control (U.S. government).

In English, 24 hours a day, seven days a week: 1-800-227-8922 or 1-800-342-2437

En Espanol, 5 a.m. – 11 p.m. Pacific Standard Time, seven days a week [8 a.m. - 2 a.m., Eastern]: 1-800-344-7432

TTY, for people who are deaf, hard of hearing, or speech impaired, 7 a.m. – 7 p.m. Pacific Standard Time, Monday-Friday [10 a.m. - 10 p.m., Eastern]: 1-800-243-7889  
 

  You know different - The National Youth Advocacy Coalition with support from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Division of HIV/AIDS, Capacity Building Branch, has created a national strategy to increase HIV testing rates among youth.  This project is a youth-driven effort to provide communities with materials that promote HIV testing among youth in an empowering and authentic way, recognizing the skills, determination and ability of young people to mobilize, talk honestly and take action to stop the spread of HIV among their peers, families, and communities.  This project includes a community level mobilization effort where youth serving agencies partner with AIDS service organizations in a planning process to identify strategies to promote HIV testing to youth and young adults. http://www.youknowdifferent.org


LINKS TO SEXUALITY INFORMATION
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NOTE: Some sites offer excellent, reliable information about sexuality, but they specifically say, "Because we get so many letters, we can't promise to answer each one personally. Write us and you may see an answer posted to our site." So go here to see if someone else has asked your question, but don't count on getting a reply to a specific question of yours.  

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Health Web Pages - A service of Public Health – Seattle & King County, this site addresses everything from sexual health to tobacco and suicide, specifically as they relate to GLBT people. http://www.metrokc.gov/health/glbt/

Go Ask Alice - A service of Columbia University's Health Education Program, this site for high school and college students and educators addresses ALL aspects of health from fitness to emotional health to drugs to sexuality. http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu

The National Sexuality Education Standards: Core Content and Skills, K–12 - provides clear, consistent and straightforward guidance on the essential minimum, core content for sexuality education that is age-appropriate for students in grades K–12. The Standards are presented both by topic area and by grade level. Four leading health organizations released the first-ever national standards for sexuality education in schools. Published in the Journal of School Health, the ground-breaking Standard are the result of a cooperative effort by the American Association for Health Education, the American School Health Association, the National Education Association Health Information Network, and the Society of State Leaders of Health and Physical Education, in coordination with the Future of Sex Education (FoSE) Initiative. Nearly 40 stakeholders including content experts, medical and public health professionals, teachers, sexuality educators, and young people developed the standards in a two-year process. “These National Sexuality Education Standards provide teachers, schools, school districts, and state education agencies with a new national standard—the minimum they need to teach to set students on a path to sexual health and responsible adulthood,” said Jerry Newberry, Executive Director of the National Education Association Health Information Network (NEA HIN). “They set forth essential sexuality education core content and skills responsive to the needs of students and in service to their overall academic achievement.” Website: http://www.futureofsexed.org/fosestandards.html; Standards document: http://www.futureofsexed.org/documents/josh-fose-standards-web.pdf (pdf file)

Not 2 Late - This site specifically about emergency contraception is operated by the Office of Population Research at Princeton University and by the Association of Reproductive Health Professionals. http://ec.princeton.edu/

Safer Sex - this brochure from Fenway Community Health in Boston, MA offers explicit safer sex advice (too explicit for a pamphlet rack in many public school nurses' offices). http://www.fenwayhealth.org/site/DocServer/safersex.pdf?docID=321 (pdf format)

Safer Sex for Bisexuals and Their Partners - this brochure from Fenway Community Health in Boston, MA offers explicit safer sex advice (too explicit for a pamphlet rack in many public school nurses' offices). http://www.fenwayhealth.org/site/DocServer/safersexbi.pdf?docID=322 (pdf format)

Sex Information and Education Council of the U.S. - lots of information, resources and news for teens, educators, parents or other adults. http://www.siecus.org/

TeenWire - A service of Planned Parenthood Federation of America, this site for teens addresses all kinds of sexual health issues. http://www.teenwire.com  

BOOKS & ‘ZINES ON SEXUALITY (in general) top of page

Finding Our Way: The Teen Girls’ Survival Guide
Allison Abner and Linda Villarosa
Addresses everything a girl needs to know about her body, boys’ bodies, skin, hair, sex, birth control, friendship, date rape, parents. Is the only book of its kind that’s this respectful of racial and sexual diversity. Foreward by Queen Latifah.
1995; ISBN 0060951141; Harper
Perennial
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The Go Ask Alice Book of Answers: A Guide to Good Physical, Sexual, and Emotional Health
Columbia University’s Health Education Program
Information about relationships; sexuality; sexual health; emotional health, fitness and nutrition, alcohol, nicotine, and other drugs; and general health questions.
1998; $15.95; ISBN 0805055703; VHPS, 16365 James Madison Highway, Gordonsville, VA 22942; Phone: 888/330-8477. Website: http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/book.html

SexTalk - Queer: What a Queer Booknook - Book categories include Sex Education for Educators, Sex Education for Youth, Parenting Sexually Healthy Kids, Sex, GLBT Issues, Body Image, Women's Sexual Health, Men's Sexual Health, and more - from Planned Parenthood of the Southern Finger Lakes, New York. http://www.sextalk.org/queer/queer-books.html

Talk About Sex - from SIECUS (the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States) provides young people with basic information about a range of sexuality topics as well as referrals to reputable websites for more information. More than a brochure, but less than a book, SIECUS' new "minibook" includes "chapters" entitled: What is Sexuality; Sexual Rights; Basic Biology; Staying Healthy; Gender Identity; Sexual Orientation; Relationships; Communication Skills; Choosing What to Do; Sexual Behavior; Sexual Response; Sexual Abuse; Birth Control; STDs/HIV; and Find Out More. Contact SIECUS to purchase hard copies at $3.00/each. http://www.siecus.org/_data/global/images/TalkAboutSex.pdf (pdf format)

Many more publications from SIECUS - including free ones online and information or ordering some that are not available online.
http://www.siecus.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=Page.viewPage&pageId=634&parentID=477

What's Happening to My Body? Book For Boys: A Growing Up Guide for Parents and Sons New Expanded, 3rd Edition
Lynda Madaras
About puberty and related issues.
2000; $12.95; ISBN1557044430; Newmarket Press, 18 E. 48th Street, Suite 1501, New York, NY 10017; Phone: 212-832-3575.

What's Happening to My Body? Book For Girls: A Growing Up Guide for Parents and Daughters New Expanded, 3rd Edition
Lynda Madaras
About puberty and related issues.
2000; $12.95; ISBN 1557044430; Newmarket Press, 18 E. 48th Street, Suite 1501, New York, NY 10017; Phone: 212-832-3575.

A Young Woman’s Survival Guide: Kickin’ Back with the Girls
Health Initiatives for Youth
Written by and for young women in clear, friendly language, this guide addresses relationships & sexuality; anatomy & menstruation: STDs, HIV & hepatitis; birth control, and more.  
1998; $10; Health Initiatives for Youth Publications, 1242 Market Street, Third Floor, San Francisco, CA 94102; Phone: 415-487-5777. Website: http://akpress.com/2004/items/youngwomanssurvivalguide

BOOKS & ‘ZINES ON GENDER & SEXUAL ORIENTATION  top of page

Bisexual Resource Guide
Robin Ochs, Ed.

Defines bisexuality, and has chapters on starting a bisexual support group; safer sex; biphobia; bisexuality in literature, film and the web; and bisexual and bi-inclusive organizations in over 50 countries and every state in the U.S.  
2001; $12.95 (pbk); ISBN 0965388131; Bisexual Resource Center, P.O. Box 1026, Boston, MA 02117-1026; Phone: 617-424-9595. Website: http://www.biresource.org

Free Your Mind: The Book For Gay, Lesbian, And Bisexual Youth And Their Allies
Ellen Bass and Kate Kaufman

Gay and lesbian teenagers relate their experiences regarding the discovery and acceptance of their sexual orientation. Includes suggestions for coping with prejudice, political and religious issues. Families, counselors and friends should read this book, too.  
1996; $14; ISBN: 0060951044; HarperCollins Publishers, 1000 Keystone Industrial Park, Scranton, PA 18512; Phone: 800-331-3761. Website: http://www.harpercollins.com/books/9780060951047/Free_Your_Mind/index.aspx

Is It A Choice? Answers To 300 Of The Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gays And Lesbians
Eric Marcus

In question and answer format, this book addresses commonly asked questions about what it means to be gay or lesbian. Answers leave room for further discussion of issues and differing perspectives.  
1999; $13; ISBN 006251623X; HarperCollins Publishers, 1000 Keystone Industrial Park, Scranton, PA 18512; Phone: 800-331-3761.
Website: http://www.harpercollins.com/books/9780060832803/Is_It_a_Choice__3rd_Edition/index.aspx

SexTalk Books: GLBT Issues - descriptions  of recommended books from Planned Parenthood of the Southern Finger Lakes, New York. http://www.sextalk.org/resources/resources-books-category.html?g=5

Transgender Warriors: Making History From Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman
Leslie Feinberg

Examines gender role expression across cultures and throughout history in a transfixing, carefully documented but extremely readable style. Includes photos.  
1997; $20 (hc); ISBN 0807079413 (pbk); Beacon Press, 25 Beacon Street Boston, MA 02108; Phone: 617-742-2110. Website: http://www.beacon.org/productdetails.cfm?PC=1688

Zines from Health Initiatives for Youth

Read selections from "Pretty Girls" the current HIFY zine in production, and also "Vital Signs" a bi-annual written “a positive voice on queer youth health" by and for questioning, transgender, gay, bisexual, lesbian, and queer youth and their allies (discontinued in 2003), "Spill" their general youth health zine (discontinued in 2003), Reality, a zine by and for HIV+ youth  published 1993 to 2000, and more.  http://www.hify.org/now_read_this.htm#zines

SOURCES for CONDOMS AND OTHER BARRIERS

CondomHall - condoms and a section on condom education: how to put on a condom, safe sex, and stds. http://www.condomhall-condoms.org

Condom Man - condoms and Condom Man's column where he answers your questions about safe sex. Also CondomMan University: How to Put on a Condom, Information Center; and Condom Man Cartoons. http://www.condomman.com/

INFORMATION FOR HEALTH CARE PROVIDERS RE: LGBT YOUTH top of page

STD's and Harm Reduction

Educators want to ensure that all teens recognize their vulnerability to HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. And they want to avoid stereotyping gay men. So they have been trying for the last couple of decades to communicate the message that STDs don't discriminate, that anyone who has unprotected sex with an infected partner can become infected. And that is true. But in this effort to include heterosexual youth in the conversation, we have sometimes failed to address the elevated risk facing gay, lesbian, bisexual and questioning teens once they become sexually intimate. In fact, we have sometimes, out of our own discomfort, avoided addressing them at all.  

Why is their risk elevated? First, their potential partners belong to a smaller population than other teens' partners (i.e., there are fewer gay, lesbian and bi people than there are heterosexuals), and disease just spreads more quickly in smaller pools of people. Also, some LGBTQ youth have sex or choose parenthood as a way to cope with social isolation and emotional and physical harassment; when you've experienced a lot of rejection and abuse, sex is a way of comforting yourself. Some LGBTQ teens get sexually assaulted, a sad reality for a much higher proportion of LGBTQ youth than for their heterosexual peers. Finally, given the fact that some studies have found as many as 40% of homeless youth are gay, lesbian or bisexual, some of their sex -- heterosexual and homosexual -- may be "survival sex" (a barter for a meal or a place to sleep).  

These resources will help educators to talk about the risk and ways of reducing it.

2009 Fact Sheet from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (the CDC): "HIV/AIDS and Young Men Who Have Sex With Men": http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/sexualbehaviors/pdf/hiv_factsheet_ymsm.pdf (pdf format)

Coalition for Positive Sexuality - organization offers very explicit safer sex information for teens of all sexual orientations. Phone: 773-604-1654. Website: http://www.positive.org

I Wanna Know - web site for teens, sponsored by the American Social Health Association, about teen sexual health and sexually transmitted disease. http://www.iwannaknow.org

LesbianSTD.com -  information. research and resources regarding sexual health and sexually transmitted diseases in women who have sex with women. Based in Seattle, WA from a doctor & Associate Professor of Medicine (Infectious Diseases), a clinical social worker, and an advanced registered nurse practitioner. http://www.lesbianstd.com/

Oral Barriers - thin sheets of natural latex. Classroom and clinic presentations can be oral-sex-inclusive without the turn-off of thick dental dams or the awkwardness of cutting latex gloves or plastic wrap. Helpful information for heterosexual and non-heterosexual students, alike. Distributor also offers posters and lubricants. Glyde USA, PO Box 9783, Seattle, WA 98109; Phone: 206-284-1636. Website: http://www.sheerglydedams.com

Safer Sex for Bisexuals and Their Partners  - brochure offers explicit safer sex advice (too explicit for a pamphlet rack in many public school nurses' offices). http://www.fenwayhealth.org/site/DocServer/safersexbi.pdf?docID=322 (pdf format)  

Sexually Transmitted Diseases Among Gay and Bisexual Men -  from Public Health – Seattle & King County. http://www.metrokc.gov/health/glbt/gbstd.htm 

Sexually Transmitted Diseases Among Lesbian and Bisexual Women - from Public Health – Seattle & King County. http://www.metrokc.gov/health/glbt/lbstd.htm

Young Men Who Have Sex With Men: At Risk for HIV and STDs  - pamphlet available in print and online from Advocates for Youth, Suite 200, 1025 Vermont Avenue NW, Washington, DC 20005; Phone: 202-347-5700. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fsyngmen.htm and en Español: Hombres jóvenes que tienen relaciones sexuales con hombres: en riesgo de contraer el VIH y otras ETS http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fsyngmen_sp.htm

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